Unwind is such a suggestive word for me. When I repeat the word in my head I see this twisted rope, twisted to the point of bursting and suddenly the tension goes and the rope unwinds before my eyes. It goes into thousands of tiny threads that just hang loose and the feeling I get from it is a very deep sense of relaxation.
The word “relax” does not do the trick for me in the same way. Unwind helps my entire being to feel the unwinding being done. “Being done” is key here.
We do wind ourselves up, harder and harder and our minds and bodies are in a twist. Instead of feeling soft and loose, we feel tense and edgy. All those twists along the way are experiences of pain, and instead of allowing them some space, we tense up and before we know it our entire system is like a big ball of yarn twisted and pulled into uselessness. But to give ourselves permission to unwind, allow the twists to naturally undo themselves, just granting ourselves this permission, feels expansive and freeing.
Just as if you had twisted a piece of string to the point of breaking you would sort of step back when you let go of it, the same goes for unwinding your being. You take a step back, as in sitting calmly, breathing and allowing it to happen. Not by remembering, analysing or getting caught in any specific twist, just releasing your hold for a while and let it.
Tension, contraction or an urgent need to stay “in control” tells you that it’s time to unwind. The more tension the more strangled your channels for creativity, inspiration, wisdom and even joy, will be. We believe that the more we effort, achieve or strain the greater the result, but it’s the other way around.
Taking a step back, for a minute, an hour, a full afternoon to just unwind, no demands, no “to-do’s”, no checking the internet, just silence and allowing your mental and emotional momentum to sloooooow down will give you unimagined benefits. Don’t unwind to get anything though, the unwinding in and of itself is it’s own reward.